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Ebira Women Don’t Want To Marry Ebira Men

Hello my fellow Ebira Men and Women, the youths in particular i wrote an article just a day interval to this one you are reading now (titled: Photos: Ebira Women Are Beautiful, Please Tell Them – See Photos That Will Melt Your Heart ) where a guy said Ebira Women are really beautiful but they are all refusing to marry their tribal Men, I promised the Guy this article after. I thought to my self and look everywhere to see the real reason behind this and after so much research I’m able to come up with something.

Guys i want to let you know that no matter how many reports you read about the rise in numbers of divorce cases in Ebiraland Today, it still remains a dirty word that Ebiras are taught not to even contemplate. For Our Forefathers generation and those who are even younger, there is a growing number who rebel. But for older couples it is still very true. No matter how much they hate each other, divorce is not an option. “Real” men and women never divorce.

We are taught in schools that it is the most abhorred by God of all things Islamically permitted. Couples have separate bedrooms on different floors and lead chiefly separate lives and yet are still married. A man might take on a second wife and not see his first except twice a month to pay the bills and buy groceries. He does it because he thinks its manly and the woman stays on and is patient because that’s what a good woman does.

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This like all other things is changing. After reading a comment on one of my articles, I thought I would write a bit about it. In Ebiraland there are two ways to obtain a divorce depending on who initiates it, the first is easy and can be done by the husband and the second is extremely hard and is reserved for the wife. The first can be done by the husband simply by deciding in his heart to divorce his wife and in effect this becomes valid immediately. Then in his own time he can go to the courts and obtain a document of his decision and send a copy to the ex-wife. Alimony and child custody is not a big deal either and definitely not mandated. Several women I personally know in Ebiraland have never gotten any financial support from their ex-husbands. And in the case they are allowed to take care of their children alone, its only because the father is not interested in caring for the kids. So in essence he is allowing the mother to have them. Which is one hearth braking thing our Government should look into.

After noticing all this i said to my self what are people turning the World into. Before you can see a Single Girl or Woman that is Single with no child In Ebiraland is very hard not that we don’t have them but those ones we see most are the ones that are abused by either their boyfriends or husbands leaving them to face the struggle of life with child if not children.

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So i can boldly say that this is the major reason why Ebira Women are deciding not to get married to their tribal Men, they are scared of divorce and it seams that the rate of divorce in Ebiraland now is greater than with Hausa’s. I just pray that since our Ebira youths are now getting Education now they should be wise enough to tackle challenges in their marriage with patience and with no violence.

With heavy heart i write this article I’m single and a very small boy, i know i can’t teach you my elders when it comes to marital life but when we the young ones see where you elderly ones are faulty we should try and make corrections and try to teach it to you if you are ignorance of it. and to my fellow single Boys out their i purposely write and dedicate this article to you guys please let us wise up and learn the best way to treat our women start it from your girlfriends, (Read my 3 Psychological Ways To Talk To Girls, To Make Them Fall In Love With You. )and the single girls out their you guys should maintain a very strong prayer support for we your future husbands, I’m sure together we are going to build a very strong and fruitful family together.

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9 Comments

9 Comments

  1. Ibrahim Otaru

    June 29, 2017 at 7:33 AM

    I find it more refreshing that these posts are honest. The truth is what we are all seeking. Whether we like it or not, it is far better than glossing over it out of a sense of patriotism.

  2. Costa

    June 29, 2017 at 7:36 AM

    I`m reading from Mexico, and is really sad to known that this situation happens around the world for different reasons, in my country, there are so many little towns and even the cities where the marriage problemas are just for woman that suffer the most for some reasons, and seems to be just unfair for us, in you guys country can be even worst, the power is against the “minority” (that is not) where the kids and women seems to does not have human rights at all. Cultures are different, but nature and humanity is just simple, we all want to be free and create a new and a fair society.

  3. Jibril Husein

    June 29, 2017 at 7:39 AM

    although I am not against divorce and I sympathize with the situations outlined in the post, it is not just something people are just “taught in school” it is the truth which was taught by Allah subhana wa ta’aala that marriage is His most hated allowable thing. It’s allowed, it’s sometimes necessary but it was He who informed us through our prophet that it is the most hated of allowable things to Him so saying that “we were taught that in school” as if you’re saying you were misinformed is a really disturbing statement.

    From Saudi Arabia

  4. Yakubu Binuyaminu

    June 29, 2017 at 7:41 AM

    Thanks for your Sincere comment Mr. Otaru, please don't forget to share With Your Friends and subscribe for more articles like this

  5. Yakubu Binuyaminu

    June 29, 2017 at 7:44 AM

    Wow, Mr. Jibril thanks for telling us your Opinion please i had like to know how you fin this article so that i can target you in your country to searve you more great articles thanks ones again…

  6. Jibril Husein

    June 29, 2017 at 7:46 AM

    Well i had subscribe to your Mailing list from one of your article so that is how I'm receiving your article so quick keep up the good work brother..

  7. Anonymous

    June 29, 2017 at 7:50 AM

    Writing about issues related to marriage and divorce, particularly in Nigeria, will benefit those who read them. It is not “airing dirty laundry”, gossip or being unfaithful to Islam. As an American, I have been there — when talking in open forums, classes and in public about domestic violence — 30 years ago. At that time, I was criticized and even my deen was questioned. and of course, there were even some cretins who felt that maybe I deserved what I got. But somebody, particularly, a victim of domestic violence, had to talk about one of the most serious social problems within the world in general. Alhamdolillah, in 2011 this matter is being openly addressed in the US at a conference of imams. The topic was not forming an Islamic educational system, Islamaphobia, or the economy, but rather domestic violence, that it was wrong and how to rid our homes of it.

    Nigeria political and religious leaders should wake up, stand up and grow a spine.

  8. Yakubu Binuyaminu

    June 29, 2017 at 7:51 AM

    Thanks for your comment

  9. Nancy Frosh

    June 29, 2017 at 8:05 AM

    I agree with the guy above me.

    There should be actual facts presented and also we have to look at the number of usual divorce cases that are handled not just look at the worst cases because divorce is messy no matter how liberal the society is so naturally it will be messy here where people are more traditional in their thinking.

    It isn’t productive to just make a random rant against we Women with no facts and with no idea of how commonly things are mishandled. I think any time something goes to court – one person is going to feel somehow like they were mishandled. That is sort of why the stuff goes to court in the first place!

    More greese to your elbow Baby Boy

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The Ebira Concept Of Ozi-Emasu And Enebe.

credits to Yagbe-Onilu

Disclaimer: Please note that even though all my articles are based on facts (research), it is for educational uses only, I am not an herbalist as some people will put it, I am a very good Muslim but my line of work make me do research out of my own curiosities. Also please ignore all my grammatical errors, I will keep all my contents simple and concise in such a way that even an illiterate will be able to understand. I am Anebira not Americana, so try and keep up.

If you read the previous article I wrote about Onovave (Reincarnation), you will notice that this topic is somehow related to it. The similarities between this articles is that of Eva (the oracle of wisdom) that is involved, reason been that back in the times of our ancestors even they believe in God, they consult Eva through Oheva to solve every problem that arise in the community.

Ozi-Emasu could sound primitive but it’s real most especially in West Africa and mainly among our tribal folks (Anebira). Ozi-Emasu completes several life cycles with one mother. In some reality cases, the Ebiras, in one of their traditional ways of deterring Ezi-Emasu from death after reborn is deface such children, either by cutting the finger, ear, or a deep mark in the face or back or by burning them. To a great surprise most of this children when reborn will have the same marks exactly the way they were been defaced before they died.

It is believed that Ezi-Emasu plummet the fortune of their folks, and their greatest joy is to see their mother cry when they die, severally because the tears on their mothers face are valuable in the spirit of Ezi-Emasu. Emasu time in human life is short and their death mostly occurs immediately after birth and the time of their joy, like graduation or marriage.

Enebe and Ozi-Emasu are the kind of children according to the Ebira belief who make pledge concerning the duration of their life, and they reunite with their fellow members in the spirit life after death. Some traditions also confirmed that some Enebes must have married their mates and probably bore children over there (in the spirit world), by coming to the human world, they will find it difficult to get married or to have children of their own.

The Ebira beliefs that the Enebe and Emasu spirits always roam about during mid-noon, and night and the most places they can be found are T junctions, dumping grounds (Itutu), river sides, grave yards, jungles and inside trees (Iroko tree for example), and all these places are forbidden for pregnant women, if you are a Muslim you will notice that this align with the so called Jinn entering peoples body in such areas. The belief is that if pregnant woman should come in contact with them they could follow her home, and could eventually give birth to a child with Enebe or Emasu spirit. (This is a very big lesson to all women). Thank you for reading my article.

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Yakubu Binuyaminu Adeiza (Binoosmart).

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EBIRA TRADITIONAL BELIEVE ABOUT ONOVAVE (REINCARNATION)

Onovave (Reincarnation) means the new life after a biological death (the dead body begins a new life somewhere else). In Ebiraland it is believed that everyone in life reincarnated some fallen souls in their respective families that is the major reason for Eva Ozi in Ebiraland that some people still do till date, we have experience a situation whereby someone got sick abroad and was later brought back home (Okene, Kogi State. Nigeria) because of this Eva Ozi and he was healed. Some believe that depending on the person reincarnated, if the person reincarnated want to be known, they will surely disturb the person that reincarnated them and must be done through Oheva (one that consult the Oracle of wisdom). My next article will be on Eva Ozi (this is against Islam and Christianity as these two religion believe that it’s an act of Satan), please stay tuned and read this article first on Onovave…..

Note: This is for Educational purposes only, before I write any article on Ebira Online Media (www.ebiraonline.com) I either follow the fact that people wants to know that topic or it’s a topic in Ebiraland that is worth knowing for nowadays youth like myself or I write based on request from my followers and fans.
Why am I writing this article now? It’s because one of my followers ask for help on Onovave if it’s true or just another story to scare little children. The person email content below;

Yusuf Ozovehe, Wrote: Hello Yakubu Binuyaminu Adeiza of Ebira Online media I really need your help regarding Reincarnation please it’s urgent.
Please I had a brother that we don’t get along at all we are like water and fire even though I love my brother so much and care about him and I am sure he feels the same way but we have never for once get along in the house I feel very uncomfortable anytime we are around each other. What really surprise me is that my mum knew about this and she thinks it’s nothing. When I asked her why she felt at peace knowing so well her sons are not getting along? She replied with, since those that reincarnated the two of you never get along till their death (my elder brother reincarnated my grandfather while I reincarnated my grandfather’s younger brother).
Believe me bro, this has got me down ever since and I don’t know what to do, please help me out, since you are in Nigeria and things like this might not be new to you over there. Thanks in Advance…
Yusuf Ozovehe, From England.
My answers will be in two forms, 1. Ebira Traditional Believe About Onovave. 2. Islamic Believe About Onovave).

EBIRA TRADITIONAL BELIEVE ABOUT ONOVAVE.
Ebira people believed traditionally that anybody that died untimely death come back to life In the same form but different location and different tribe to complete his remaining years on earth, this Onovave topic is a broad one according to my grandfather that is putting me through, he said he has heard stories of people that died in Okene and was found 10 years later at a very small village in Yoruba land with his own family (wife and children). He decided to bring them home after so much disturb from the wife that she needs to know where he is from he brought them home but later he was nowhere to be found, he pointed to me the family that it happened to in Inoziomi and he said it was a story he heard growing up, he is not sure if it’s true, lot of people have been saying it and the family has never for once denied it.

Also after Eva Ozi has be done in Ebiraland by Oheva and the person reincarnated has been known, this is when names like Inya, Inda, Mummy, Daddy came from in Ebiraland, because they believed some fallen family members have been given birth to again. This kind of children became spoilt as they will be over pampered believing they are elders. (In Yoruba land its Babatunde or Yetunde which means Father or Mother is back again).
Please Note: I’m not saying that everyone with above name gone through the process of Eva Ozi; all I am saying is that, it started from there, ok? Some people gave such name to their children just to sweet them thanks.

ISLAMIC BELIEVE IN REINCARNATION (ONOVAVE)
Islam believed that it is possible but they are not the same person, it is the work of the devil trying to lead you astray Evil spirit take the form of your dead family member to deceive you, if you believe in it you visit the Oheva which is strictly against the law of Islam. Please be careful about this…
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