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As a young, single Ebira guy crossing the river Niger and Benue (Kogi State) for Schooling In the Northern Part of Nigeria, I was extremely curious about the dating life in the North (as a blogger though. Lols). After all, I’d watched my fellow guys charmed the hell out of Beautiful girls in Bars, Super Markets and in club in Ekiti where I live before relocating to Kogi State and later to Zaria.
Ebira Girls And Hausa Girls – By, Binoosmart.


I have compared dating Ebira Girls and Dating Yoruba girls In one of my previous articles you can check it out by clicking here.

It was early this year (2017) when I first landed in Kaduna State as a young- Ebira Boy, with warnings about Hausa girls: they’re high maintenance, my friends told me. I tried to brush this off—preconceptions are always dangerous when entering any sort of relationship. Still, when I met my first girlfriend in Ahmadu Bello University, Hausa girl from Kano State, I was immediately taken aback by an over arching obsession with status and money. She had a vision of the man she was going to marry: tall, dark, handsome, and a millionaire. After all, as she put it, “Bloggers don’t make a lot of money.” I wasn’t the guy that could spoon feed her, and I’m not tall and so handsome for now, so it ended.

But surely not all Hausa Girls thought all Guys had an endless supply of money? They weren’t all obsessed with fame, Looks and fortune, were they? Was Hausa culture really as shallow as my friends had warned?
I dated another Hausa Girl again this Girl! really awesome she is my course mate. Sadly, when we were suddenly thrust into a long distance relationship for like 3months, the reality set in that it was putting too much stress on our education. So with a heavy heart, it was the end of a fairytale love affair.
Since then, I have been comparing my time spent with this Hausa girls to those time I spend with my several Ebira Girlfriends, and if there’s one thing I can tell you, it’s that the stereotype of Ebira Girls being more well-mannered is actually true. Hausa girls—in my experience—carry themselves elegantly; sometimes so much.
Recently, I went on two dates in Zaria (Mr. Biggs in Samaru) within the space of a week, one with Ebira Girl, the other with a Hausa Girl. The Hausa eerily reminded me of myself—she ate quickly, washed her food down with juice, and generally wasn’t too concerned about how she might look to the outside world, let alone me. The Ebira Girl, with seemingly impeccable etiquette, ate slowly and cautiously, ensuring the chicken she was munching on didn’t wrap around her big, pearly white teeth.
On the contrary, Hausa girls have no too much of shame picking piece of meat out of their teeth on a date. It just took me a while to realize that this might have nothing to do with etiquette at all, but rather, it might be because Ebira women are more anxious than Hausa women. They worry more about their appearance, political correctness and how others perceive them. There is more emphasis on “keeping up appearances,” especially In Ahmadu Bello University where I have been Schooling for the past five months now.
Similarly, Hausa girls are much more lavish in their approach to life; and this includes the restaurants they expect to be taken to. Money and salary is brought up frequently, and name dropping is prevalent in a good portion of conversations, I think this is obvious because status is paramount in the north. Ebira girls, meanwhile, do not spend the same amount of money on themselves as Hausa girls, nor do they expect you to spend a lot on them.
Again Ebira Girls speak more of becoming independent while Hausa Girls believe Guys will be the person to provide for the family alone-an average Hausa man will agree to this.
In terms of sex to some of my Ebira Girlfriends sex is not too much of a big deal but to some it is and to Hausa Girls, they believe its only in Marriage, though it depends if the girl is religious. One of my course mate (Victoria) once told me that the most disappointing thing about relationship these days is; Guys thinking everything about dating has to do with sex, well to this objection I will not argue and will not agree at the same time, because such relationships depends on the primary Objective the relationship is placed upon (Marriage or just for the fun of it). When you are not ready for marriage! Why should you date in the first place.




The biggest lesson I’ve learned, is that we Ebira Men have set the bar so low, taking our women for granted. I’m astounded by the Ebira men I have seen, who shamelessly approach women with no respect, like drooling dogs. Hausa women expect a man with top notch etiquette—an almost forgotten trait here. If I could teach Ebira women one thing, it would be to raise their expectations.
As I approach my birthday, one thing has become clear: if I could combine the best quality of Ebira and Hausa Girls, In just one Girl she might just be the one I will date and get Married to.
I think I should drop my pen at this junction.
Do you enjoy reading this article please share with your friends and families and at the comment section below drop your opinions and reply other peoples opinion on this article. Thanks for Reading.
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Yakubu Binuyaminu Adeiza,
Binoosmart.

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11 Comments

11 Comments

  1. Samson Samson

    June 11, 2017 at 10:51 PM

    Thumbs Up Bro:

    Remember i told you the other day you should go fully into relationship tip instead of multi Niche Blogging..

    All your articles are top notch most especially.. Love Is Not Just Enough. More grease to your Elbow

  2. Yakubu Binuyaminu

    June 11, 2017 at 10:55 PM

    Thanks bro you are the best,,
    Samson Oko Olosho Hows Ado?

  3. Nancy Frosh

    June 11, 2017 at 11:39 PM

    Wow;

    Its bin a long time you write on relationship tips last i really miss your articles nice one on this/ i just hope Hausa Girls for your school no kill you sha i heard they can kill average man wey no stand well for bed.. LELZ

    You Know NancyDiet always got your back

    More grease to your elbow my Day one sugar….

  4. Yakubu Binuyaminu

    June 11, 2017 at 11:42 PM

    Nancy Boo thanks for your comment and kind words

    you are the best.. love you – kisses.

  5. AL-AMIN MOMOH

    June 12, 2017 at 10:08 PM

    Smart… you deserve that name bro.
    Nice write up man. Buh sha I fear u ooo 2 under 6months.. Chai, no let dem Come arrest u oo.
    Keep this up, expecting more posts from us soon..long life and happy Birthday in advance ✌️✌️✌️✌️

  6. kabiru balarabe

    June 12, 2017 at 10:08 PM

    check your English babe

  7. kabiru balarabe

    June 12, 2017 at 10:08 PM

    Nice One Bro

  8. Yakubu Binuyaminu

    June 12, 2017 at 10:13 PM

    Thanks bro.
    Abeg no fear me oh nah your footsteps i dey follow,
    Thanks for your comment

  9. Unknown

    June 14, 2017 at 6:53 PM

    You with your articles ehn you really try though i must confess you are a great writer.

  10. kasim Aminu kakeyi

    June 22, 2017 at 5:21 AM

    Haba Mallam:

    You no see the way the Girl close Eye ni?

  11. AM Bello Omeiza

    April 29, 2019 at 4:52 AM

    this the first time am reading your article nice one bro, it a nice concept am proud of u man

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The Ebira Concept Of Ozi-Emasu And Enebe.

credits to Yagbe-Onilu

Disclaimer: Please note that even though all my articles are based on facts (research), it is for educational uses only, I am not an herbalist as some people will put it, I am a very good Muslim but my line of work make me do research out of my own curiosities. Also please ignore all my grammatical errors, I will keep all my contents simple and concise in such a way that even an illiterate will be able to understand. I am Anebira not Americana, so try and keep up.

If you read the previous article I wrote about Onovave (Reincarnation), you will notice that this topic is somehow related to it. The similarities between this articles is that of Eva (the oracle of wisdom) that is involved, reason been that back in the times of our ancestors even they believe in God, they consult Eva through Oheva to solve every problem that arise in the community.

Ozi-Emasu could sound primitive but it’s real most especially in West Africa and mainly among our tribal folks (Anebira). Ozi-Emasu completes several life cycles with one mother. In some reality cases, the Ebiras, in one of their traditional ways of deterring Ezi-Emasu from death after reborn is deface such children, either by cutting the finger, ear, or a deep mark in the face or back or by burning them. To a great surprise most of this children when reborn will have the same marks exactly the way they were been defaced before they died.

It is believed that Ezi-Emasu plummet the fortune of their folks, and their greatest joy is to see their mother cry when they die, severally because the tears on their mothers face are valuable in the spirit of Ezi-Emasu. Emasu time in human life is short and their death mostly occurs immediately after birth and the time of their joy, like graduation or marriage.

Enebe and Ozi-Emasu are the kind of children according to the Ebira belief who make pledge concerning the duration of their life, and they reunite with their fellow members in the spirit life after death. Some traditions also confirmed that some Enebes must have married their mates and probably bore children over there (in the spirit world), by coming to the human world, they will find it difficult to get married or to have children of their own.

The Ebira beliefs that the Enebe and Emasu spirits always roam about during mid-noon, and night and the most places they can be found are T junctions, dumping grounds (Itutu), river sides, grave yards, jungles and inside trees (Iroko tree for example), and all these places are forbidden for pregnant women, if you are a Muslim you will notice that this align with the so called Jinn entering peoples body in such areas. The belief is that if pregnant woman should come in contact with them they could follow her home, and could eventually give birth to a child with Enebe or Emasu spirit. (This is a very big lesson to all women). Thank you for reading my article.

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Yakubu Binuyaminu Adeiza (Binoosmart).

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I think we all should keep preaching the gospel to everyone, as people are really forgetting how to speak good Ebira Language these days, i am a victim though.

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EBIRA TRADITIONAL BELIEVE ABOUT ONOVAVE (REINCARNATION)

Onovave (Reincarnation) means the new life after a biological death (the dead body begins a new life somewhere else). In Ebiraland it is believed that everyone in life reincarnated some fallen souls in their respective families that is the major reason for Eva Ozi in Ebiraland that some people still do till date, we have experience a situation whereby someone got sick abroad and was later brought back home (Okene, Kogi State. Nigeria) because of this Eva Ozi and he was healed. Some believe that depending on the person reincarnated, if the person reincarnated want to be known, they will surely disturb the person that reincarnated them and must be done through Oheva (one that consult the Oracle of wisdom). My next article will be on Eva Ozi (this is against Islam and Christianity as these two religion believe that it’s an act of Satan), please stay tuned and read this article first on Onovave…..

Note: This is for Educational purposes only, before I write any article on Ebira Online Media (www.ebiraonline.com) I either follow the fact that people wants to know that topic or it’s a topic in Ebiraland that is worth knowing for nowadays youth like myself or I write based on request from my followers and fans.
Why am I writing this article now? It’s because one of my followers ask for help on Onovave if it’s true or just another story to scare little children. The person email content below;

Yusuf Ozovehe, Wrote: Hello Yakubu Binuyaminu Adeiza of Ebira Online media I really need your help regarding Reincarnation please it’s urgent.
Please I had a brother that we don’t get along at all we are like water and fire even though I love my brother so much and care about him and I am sure he feels the same way but we have never for once get along in the house I feel very uncomfortable anytime we are around each other. What really surprise me is that my mum knew about this and she thinks it’s nothing. When I asked her why she felt at peace knowing so well her sons are not getting along? She replied with, since those that reincarnated the two of you never get along till their death (my elder brother reincarnated my grandfather while I reincarnated my grandfather’s younger brother).
Believe me bro, this has got me down ever since and I don’t know what to do, please help me out, since you are in Nigeria and things like this might not be new to you over there. Thanks in Advance…
Yusuf Ozovehe, From England.
My answers will be in two forms, 1. Ebira Traditional Believe About Onovave. 2. Islamic Believe About Onovave).

EBIRA TRADITIONAL BELIEVE ABOUT ONOVAVE.
Ebira people believed traditionally that anybody that died untimely death come back to life In the same form but different location and different tribe to complete his remaining years on earth, this Onovave topic is a broad one according to my grandfather that is putting me through, he said he has heard stories of people that died in Okene and was found 10 years later at a very small village in Yoruba land with his own family (wife and children). He decided to bring them home after so much disturb from the wife that she needs to know where he is from he brought them home but later he was nowhere to be found, he pointed to me the family that it happened to in Inoziomi and he said it was a story he heard growing up, he is not sure if it’s true, lot of people have been saying it and the family has never for once denied it.

Also after Eva Ozi has be done in Ebiraland by Oheva and the person reincarnated has been known, this is when names like Inya, Inda, Mummy, Daddy came from in Ebiraland, because they believed some fallen family members have been given birth to again. This kind of children became spoilt as they will be over pampered believing they are elders. (In Yoruba land its Babatunde or Yetunde which means Father or Mother is back again).
Please Note: I’m not saying that everyone with above name gone through the process of Eva Ozi; all I am saying is that, it started from there, ok? Some people gave such name to their children just to sweet them thanks.

ISLAMIC BELIEVE IN REINCARNATION (ONOVAVE)
Islam believed that it is possible but they are not the same person, it is the work of the devil trying to lead you astray Evil spirit take the form of your dead family member to deceive you, if you believe in it you visit the Oheva which is strictly against the law of Islam. Please be careful about this…
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