On one particular Saturday I went to the to my school (Fed. Poly. Ado Ekiti, Ekiti State) in the afternoon and i was relaxing in cafeteria, i actually met some group of students discussing the topic Qualities of Tribal Girls in Nigeria. I was interested so i listened due to its what i do (Blogging)
“One Fella there was my cource mate he new im EbiraBoy so he raised the subject can you date EbiraGirls?.
When I heard that question, my stomach immediately tightened. Even though I hadn’t heard any of the them talk’ perception of Ebira women, I already knew (in my gut) what they were going to say.
By the time a guy said no and gave his reason, “Violent,” I was in the coat section and in a bad mood.
“Why?,” I asked myself, “is the acurate word that come to mind when describing Ebira women?”
Intellectually, I knew the answer: The intersection of race, class, and gender for Ebira women in this country has meant having to reconcile a legacy of slavery and the creation of dehumanizing tropes and stereotypes like the violent people, created by some majority groups in nigeria to systemically control our reproduction, destroy our families, and distort to ourselves and our men. And the truth is that Ebira women had to be many things, one of making peace, the best point. I also understand that this is why we as a culture value this attribute at the expense of so many others.
But there is far more to being a Ebira woman than being violent, Ebira women are strong and independent. So, shortly after leaving the cafeteria, I created my own survey and asked approximately 20 Ebira ladies to describe themselves. While I was disappointed to see that some Ebira women, too, are saying that they are elent no one can furck with, had internalized many of the same stereotypes that have been paraded as truth, it was refreshing to see that many Ebira women understood the complexity of their human experience and were able to articulate that complexity by choosing words that more fully and accurately encompasses what it means to be a Ebira woman.
Here are seven of the ways Ebira women surveyed see themselves that, thankfully, have nothing to do with being violent:
Ebira women are the s–t. And they have been since the beginning of time. Ebira women have fought hard to be accepted in society, past and present. Ebira women are trendsetters and revolutionaries.
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1. Fashionable: Some of us love to look good and smell good.We love to be on the cutting edge of fashion trends. Others are always watching how we put colors together and how we tend to our hair.
3. Family-oriented: Ebira women are often the ones to remember the birthdays, send the Christmas cards, and plan the family reunions. Family fuels a lot of Ebira women’s happiness and sense of belonging.
4. Funny: Ebira women love to laugh and make their friends and families laugh. We push back against that ABW (violent Ebira women).
5. Happy: Similar to the concept of Ebira women being funny, we’re also happy people with healthy emotional dispositions and worldviews. This happiness also comes from our ability to be grateful.
7. Intelligent: Ebira women see themselves as cognitively well endowed. We believe that Ebira women are able to juggle the matrix of life because of their ability to think quickly and creatively.
8. Hardworking: Ebira women can be any home breadwinner copied that as my mum top quality, mama took care of the family for more than a year when things were hard for papa. till date mama still got that quality.
9. Very Supportive: Similar to the concept of Ebira women being hardworking despite the fact that things were hard none of our neighbors knew what was going on in the family.
What adjectives would you use to describe black women beside “violent”? please drop your comments below and take your time to share with your friends::
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